I was listening to something earlier and the host commented that an unavoidable part of this work is feeling like a puddle on the floor at times (quite often at times). And she’s so right. We all desperately want to feel better. To no longer be haunted by the pain of the past and the …
Dear parents. Please don’t beat yourself up or shame yourself for the times you don’t feel like you do it perfectly. Perfect doesn’t exist. You will be tired. Frustrated. Lose your temper. Be distracted by your phone. Etc. Because you are human. What matters is how you deal with it. Can you say sorry? Can …
When many think trauma they think war, horrific accidents, sexual abuse etc. But trauma spans so much more. One relatively common type of trauma is developmental or childhood trauma. Often it occurs when a parent or caregiver isn’t in a place to help a child self soothe because they are too anxious/depressed etc themselves. So …
We all play roles in our families and they can be deeply engrained. AND you get to change the role you play. You no longer need to be the peace keeper, the rescuer, the good child, the deliverer. You do not need to take on the anxiety and rules of the system. You can maintain …
You know your family is a bit messy. But your childhood was a long time ago. You’ve built a good life for yourself since then. There’s no need to go digging around in the past. Except…. Your childhood impacted how you developed. Your brain and your body. It shaped how you learned to survive and …
Earlier this year I was a guest on my coach’s podcast. Among other things, we talked about my experience of having done lots of therapy and coaching, but still feeling something was missing – and what that missing piece of the puzzle was. If you are feeling stuck in a job you don’t enjoy. Or …
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There are 4 stages of being on the way to returning to your true self: 1 Survival mode. In this phase, you spend large periods feeling overly stressed and are possibly experiencing some anxiety and depression. Life feels chaotic and you are mostly just trying to get trough the day. 2 Managing day to day, …
It was Christmas 2018. I was asked what I wanted for Christmas by a family member. I knew to ask for something modest so requested a black mascara. “I have a brown one spare you can have” I didn’t want a brown mascara. I wanted a black one. It might feel like a small point, …
I don’t limit my client base to a particular career choice or demographic. And so everyone I work with comes from different backgrounds. A mix of ethnicities. Different sexes. Professionals (I currently work with lawyers, tax professionals, accountants, consultants, Big 4 partners, recruiters, engineers, marketing experts, project managers, coaches, personal trainers, digital clinical experts…. the …
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You Passed every exam you ever sat (driving tests may have been another matter but that’s a post for another day). Went into the world of work and excelled. And yes you’ve always kind of over worked. Felt a bit anxious. And struggled to switch off. But that’s just normal. It is what it is …
